I had an incredibly inspirational week this week. It’s hard to believe that this one was different from many of the other weeks I’ve had, since I am one of those people that continually get inspired! If you are one of the people in my network of friends that get to hear how inspired I was, thank you for allowing me the space to do so. You see, when I get inspired, I get really excited. I feel the impact of this to my core. It vibrates inside of me and I can’t sit still. I want to talk about it, write about it, text about to those who aren’t within ear shot! It helps me to figure out my next steps and it creates actions in my mind and gets me to the next level of success or even a deeper understanding of myself! That is what happened this week. A deeper level of understanding and knowing of myself was integrated into my being and let me tell you…it is exciting!
It started on Wednesday. The amazing company I work for, IHG, was having their quarterly leadership summit for their leaders in their Salt Lake office. I was really looking forward to this because I always walk away with something extremely valuable. Knowing that two of my closest and most motivating friends were putting it together and the theme was “It all starts with ME!” Which made me even more eager to be a part of this event. We were pleasantly surprised when the vice president of our reservations and customer care departments world wide was there to present. What he spoke about hit me to my core and I knew it was going to be a life changing day for me…especially when that’s exactly what he talked about. Life changing events, being the change, having grit and only competing with yourself. Yes! These are the things I think about every day…so why was this moment so impactful? It made me reflect. Especially when he asked us what life changing events would we want to share. Well, of course, I raised my hand and shared it was when my son passed away. That moment was the MOST life changing for me. It continues to be a driving force to my healing and helping others. He then asked us to think about what little changes we encountered that were life changing for us. I couldn’t think of a smaller one at that moment, big ones jumped out, but I have been pondering it ever since. There have been so many so many.
I truly believe that every person that comes into our lives are here for a reason. We learn from them and teach them. We make a difference in each other’s worlds and we become a part of each other’s story. We usually meet those people because of the choices we make and the actions we take. I have heard over and over what a horrible year 2016 has been, and I sit back and reflect. It has actually be life altering for me. I haven’t just changed things in my world, I have altered them. It is exactly because of those choices and actions I have made. Every single month I have discovered something new about myself. It started at the beginning of the year when I realized I was unhappy. Oh, sure, I had a smile on my face and had moments of happiness, but it was to the point reflecting on the past year, that I realized it was affecting my shine to other people. It was probably about November of 2015, I remember walking into work and my sweet coworker friend said, “Chalese, what’s wrong with you? Where is your light? I don’t see it anymore in your eyes like I used to.” (Life changing moment.) She was right. I had just worked so hard, went through so much to purchase my home…I crossed that off my bucket list, so why wasn’t I happy? I know better than anyone that things don’t make me happy, but it was how I got there that I was so proud of. It didn’t matter, for the first time in my over 3 years at IHG I didn’t want to go to work. “Ok, someone needed an attitude adjustment,” I thought. Well, it worked a little bit, but I knew it was deeper than that. I wasn’t happy because I wasn’t living my full potential. I’m not sure I even knew what that was. I was always driven, always trying to be better, so why wasn’t it working anymore?
Ah! Light bulb moment! I was not living in a way that was living my truth. I was not living in reality. My head, my heart and my gut were way out of alignment and something clicked. I was done. Done living in an illusion of how I thought life should be and started living life as it is right now. I started a new chapter in my book, no…a new volume in my series. It was not about finding happiness, it was about finding complete joy…even bliss. I cracked open the fresh blank pages and started to figure out who I was, what I wanted, and how I was going to get there. I found myself being resistant to some things, yet completely open to others. I became like a child again and allowed my eyes to be open wide and absorb anything and everything I can to help with my ultimate understanding of myself, which I know is exactly how I set myself free. The people that have come into my life are a permanent part of my story. They have made an unbelievable impact on me. This is who and what I want to surround myself with. These are my people. I have taken classes, seminars, gone on retreats, had hypnosis sessions, neurolinguistic programming lessons, reiki and crystal healings, card readings and have really gotten to the core issue of so many things. Most importantly, I have found who I truly am. I have pushed myself to my limits this year, emotionally, spiritually, physically and even professionally. I have learned exactly what I want and notice and accept that into my life when it, or they present themselves.
I could do this because I have learned that it all starts with me. I have had so much fun on this journey. I have cried, I have laughed, I have feared, I have hurt and I have loved more than I ever thought was possible. I have had gratitude for every moment I have experienced, every person who has come into my life, every story that’s been told to me, every picture that’s been taken for me, and every feeling I have felt through my soul. I have had grit and refused to give up, or even be stagnant, (not that the people in my world now would even let me! Yay!) I have believed in the unbelievable. I have held the vision and trusted the process.
I ask you, are you ready to do this for yourself? Are you ready to completely be free of limitations? Are you excited for what you have to offer the world? Are you ready to believe that you are a world changer? Are you willing to dive deep into yourself and get untangled from that web of deception you have created for yourself? If so, its you that needs to take the first step.
Its time to believe that you are special. That you have something incredible and specific to offer the world. Everything you do has the potential of having an impact on someone else. Be conscious and be aware. You are the ruler of your own world. You make choices to put what you want into action. Stop making excuses for why you can’t. You CAN! It is overwhelming if you look at the whole picture, so break it down. Work on one small thing today that will get you a little closer than you want to be tomorrow. You start changing the world by changing yourself. If we could all realize that we would stop blaming our environment, society, our jobs, our parents, and our surroundings. We would really get to the root cause of our own individual why. I promise you, it’s more contagious than you think.
My leaders and friends were right this week. It did all start with me….and I’m sharing the message that it does all start with YOU! But, the secret to this transition is that you have to want it more than anything you’ve ever wanted before. Find your life changing moments that will create your life altering experiences.